Having strong Social Skills as an adult means having polished our ability to communicate our needs and feelings effectively, interact, and build relationships with others.

These social skills tell much about which type of person, by essence, we are and can be when we make new connections, share experiences, or speak in public.

As an adult, we can have strong social skills if we interact more with others, learn from their experiences, read and learn from experts and allow ourselves to be open to explore what the world and its people have to offer.

Social Skills are commonly developed since we are kids depending on our culture and moral education.


  1. We are Free and Promote Freedom 
  2.  Improve our Self-Esteem
  3. We are Always Learning
  4. We are Constantly on The Flow  
  5. More easily maintain a Healthy and Happy State of Mind
  6. We can Build better and many more Relationships. 
  7. We develop Social Awareness toward People’s Feeds and Needs. 

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  1. We are Free and Promote Freedom

When we get rid of judgmental thoughts and actions, we actively listen; we automatically attract people, and they want to be by our side. Growing up and understanding that people got different values and goals is a way to get that.

Freedom is the feeling of being ourselves by essence and our willingness not to offend or disrespect others. 

The vital social skill that can help us develop a reflexive practice consists of exchanging personal experiences with people we just met or didn’t have much connection with.

Social Skills can make the relationship change dynamic and allow us to acknowledge new stories or about subjects commonly known from different perspectives.

When we understand that people have the same right to make choices that can become a lifestyle or not, and feel good about it as we do, we open up to opportunities we did not get.

We can disagree and not see ourselves in their place, but we should be respectful and not judge.

  1. Improve our Self-Esteem

When we speak up in groups or work/school presentations , even almost scared, we practice the muscle that will allow us to manage anxiety.

To speak in public can also help us manage how we talk — pausing in the middle of a sentence rather than at the end or finishing our sentence even if someone tries to interrupt.

Imagine we get hired to do a job that requires that we make lots and lots of social interactions, deliver presentations, talk to people every day and what mostly scares us is that we often don’t have enough self-confidence.

Being a person with high self-esteem makes us feel comfortable in our skin, and because of that, we don’t need to change ourselves to fit in;

We can be open to new connections yet be selective when we see they don’t have similar purposes in life or would be of any benefit. Freedom is to us, and others remember?

  1. We are Always Learning

When we empathize and actively listen to those who need us, we help people in need and put ourselves in situations that allow us to learn something new, making us wiser.

Sometimes we can see conflicts and run away from them, but that makes us less and less prepared for later situations that can be about our jobs or life or death cases. Embracing the challenge and being able to help solve conflicts early on, can be a great asset for our future as leaders in an organization.

  1. We are Constantly on The Flow 

Because we are ‘out boxers’, we feed our curiosity beast a little more everyday, making us always on the flow; being on the flow means that we are creative and do things functionally and pleasantly to our others.

Adaptability is a social skill that leads to creativity, making us strong adults in a way that, if we take challenges and impromptu works, activities, or social meetings that are not what we are used to, help us acknowledge and celebrate our uniqueness and diversity.

Being in the flow can allow us to try out new ideas and new ways of thinking and problem-solving.

  1. More easily maintain a Healthy and Happy State of Mind

Happiness isn’t just one state of being; it’s a mentality. Being and feeling happy is the ability to take the experiences and conflicts life has given to us and to personalize them in a way that benefits us.

Researchers have shown that self-professed optimists are more likely to approach disappointment by identifying what actions they can take to ease the situation. Instead of rueing what went wrong or wasting energy focusing on things they cannot change, they try to resolve difficult situations.

– The Stillness Project.

When we think positively, we are not running away from the real situation we are facing. Instead, we are focused on finding solutions for whatever is preventing us from reaching our goal.

  1. We Build Better Relationships

The ability to communicate effectively with others is a core social skill. If we have strong communication skills, we’ll share our thoughts and ideas clearly with others.

When we are indeed ourselves, we can clearly explain what we are feeling, our core values, and beliefs without arguing, which gives us the benefit of quickly building relationships.

Being an effective communicator makes us closer to people we are getting to know or don’t know. Because we listen and exchange experiences that make us know ourselves better, and understanding people’s struggles make us good leaders.

  1. We develop Social Awareness toward People’s Feelings and Needs

Social awareness is the fourth skill set in studying and applying emotional intelligence and focuses on how people handle relationships and understanding others’ feelings, needs, and concerns.

When we are socially aware, we understand (we don’t have to identify) the perspective of and empathize with others, including diverse backgrounds and cultures. 

Social awareness can benefit us because we are in the middle of different realities and ways of feeling; we get to think about ourselves, including judgments, goals, and how we reach logical conclusions through ourselves.

Social awareness can help us form our personality, develop values, and become more socially accepted in multiple groups, allowing us to grow mentally, physically, and culturally.


Having strong social skills as an adult can be developed from actions like initiating conversations with strangers, sitting down and listening to people and sounds surrounding us, reading and watching programs about the subject out of our comfort zone.

When we have strong social skills, we are more likely to achieve success in our personal and professional lives, independence, and emotional well-being.

References and Further Reading

The New York Times (2020). An Adult’s Guide to Social Skills, for Those Who Were Never Taught.

AceThePresentation. 7 Indicators of Good and Bad Social Skills.

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